I am not engaged nor am I thinking of getting married any time soon. I’m not convinced that I actually want to get married, ever. I perceive marriage as a religious institution. That being said, if I’m not religious, why would I require a religious ceremony?
Understandably there are civil weddings and ceremonies that are not religious at all, but I just don’t feel I’d ever want to orchestrate that kind of public declaration of commitment or love. Fact of the matter is, being “MARRIED” doesn’t really mean anything.
You can be happily married forever.
You can happily be together forever without marriage.
You can be unhappy in marriage and get divorced.
You can be unhappy unmarried and separate.
Not to say that weddings and marriages are worthless or not beautiful - they can be, and often are. I just don’t think my ‘ideal’ relationship would require one.
That being said, however, I think it would be a good idea to eventually get civilly married (not just be “domestic partners”) just to ensure that we get ALL the legal security and benefits that we should technically be entitled to.
TLDR; I don’t want a wedding, but I’d legally (civilly) get married to ensure to have access to all the rights and benefits of marriage.